You’re at a family gathering and your photo enthused family member yells “family picture time!”
You die a little inside and come up with a million excuses not to get in the picture. Or you immediately scout the best option to stand behind so that only your perfect face shows in the photo.
I know this scenario all too well. And what’s bad is that I am a photographer. Actually, it works to my favor because usually I’m the one yelling for photos, but I’m the one taking them, so I rarely make it into the snapshot.
Over the last few years, my outlook has changed a bit though. My mom hated getting her picture taken. She never liked the way she looked on film. Eight years ago she died, and here I am with nothing left but the memories in my heart and very few physical snapshots. I found myself getting so frustrated because she was never IN the photos; there are tons of me growing up, but very few of the two of us together.
Taking photos of families is one of my favorite things in all the world. I adore the emotion I am able to capture…moments, memories, experiences. Perfectly imperfect families having fun or having meltdowns – either way, its a memory.
Sweet friend – can I encourage you for a moment? I completely understand not being happy with how you look. But can I shed some light? Life doesn’t stop just because you aren’t completely happy with your appearance. Memories do not stop happening. In fact, the memories your children will be left with is how you hated being photographed because of all of your “imperfections”. You cannot allow life to stop happening because everything isn’t perfect. Truth be told, nothing will ever be perfect. You’ll keep pushing off taking family photos until next year, and then the next, and then the next. Before you know it, ten years have passed since a photo of you with your family has been captured.
It’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to not be where you ultimately want to be. But the most important thing you can do for yourself, and for your family, is to love yourself where you’re at, while you’re working towards what you want to be.
So savor those memories and moments with your family. Friends, we are not promised tomorrow. Any day could be our last. And if it was your last day, what memories are you leaving with your family? Those little photo snapshots keep memories alive forever.
So what if you’re curvier than you wish? We all are. Jump in and smile in that photo. Have a little fun. Let your hair down and embrace life just a little more. I promise – the lens won’t break. And who knows….you may even enjoy yourself.